Do you feel as though you are invisible and taken for granted? WORK IT OUT

When you speak all the time,
people tend to switch off and
ignore what you are saying. You are
considered a noisemaker and
loudmouth who is not quite taken
seriously.

Do you feel as though you are
invisible and taken for granted?
Do you sometimes find yourself
stagnating and feel as if you are
going nowhere fast in all areas of
your life? It may be time to
regroup and think about how to up
your game.

Some of the most practical ways to
do this include making subtle
changes to your etiquette. These
ways do not cost a penny and may
be implemented almost overnight.
They do not involve any
psychoanalysis and other long and
drawn out methods. Here are
some ways to help transform you
from mediocre to sought-after star.
1. Stop talking too much: When
you speak all the time, people
tend to switch off and ignore
what you are saying. You are
considered a noisemaker and
loudmouth who is not quite
taken seriously. Maybe some of
the things you say are
ridiculous, or perhaps you take
jokes too far, especially when
you have had one too many to
drink.
2. Become unavailable : Rare
commodities acquire greater
value. If you are always around
when people call you or need
you, it is easy for you to be
taken for granted. Maybe you
are too eager to please others
and find yourself being
misused as an odd-job person.
This sort of reputation makes
people think you are a
doormat. Try making yourself
scarce for a while and see how
reactions start changing.
3. Change your demeanor: If
you always show up with
overly humble and apologetic
gestures and puppy dog eyes,
people may devalue you. This
especially applies to women
who desperately want to get
into a relationship. The minute
you show a little bit of attitude,
you become a challenge to
other people and they start
becoming more respectful of
you.
4. Learn to intimidate: There are
times when people ought to
fear you, and not think that you
are simply too nice all the
time. It starts with your
dressing: wear a black skirt,
black heels and stockings and a
matching top. Maintain a
straight, no-nonsense face and
steady eye contact. Smile only
when necessary and use as few
words in low tones as possible
to communicate. You will be
surprised at the reaction of
others, as they are taken aback
5. Do a disappearing act for a
while : The old saying that
“familiarity breeds contempt”
could imply that if you are
around certain people, all the
time, it is possible to become
contemptuous to them. If you
sense that your presence has
become too much, it is time to
do a disappearing act. Leave
town to undertake some
studies, or if you can afford it,
travel to another country.
While you are away, resist the
temptation to call or
communicate frequently. When
you return, you will most likely
be received with fresh eyes.
6. Be an enigma: Increase your
personal ratings by being
mysterious. Allow people to
ponder about you. You can do
this by minimising self-
disclosure.

"Be yourself in life"
  -Toboa siri